Understanding Teen Dating Violence and How to Offer or Get Help
Stacey J. Drubner, JD, LICSW, MPH
Teen dating violence is often a topic that’s not discussed. Therefore, many teens are not getting appropriate education on preventing or addressing dating violence and many may not feel comfortable discussing teen dating violence with friends, parents, teachers or coaches. The best way to counteract teen dating violence is with knowledge and guidance (resources below). The Mass General Brigham EAP is always available to help employees and immediate household family members with Support for Intimate Partner Violence, Sexual Assault or Trauma.
Forms of Teen Dating Violence
- Physical
- Sexual
- Stalking
- Digital/Online
- Emotional/Psychological
Prevalence of Teen Dating Violence (Centers for Disease Control and Prevention)
- Reports of physical violence in the last year: Nearly 1 in 11 female and approximately 1 in 15 male high school students
- Reports of sexual violence in the last year: About 1 in 9 female and 1 in 36 male high school students
- In groups that are already marginalized: Sexual minority groups are disproportionately affected by all forms of violence, and some racial/ethnic minority groups are disproportionately affected by many types of violence.
Digital Dating Abuse
In recent years the establishment of devices and social media in teen culture has made digital platforms a common vehicle for teen dating violence. A 2020 survey of 12-17 year-olds in dating relationships (Journal of Interpersonal Violence) reported that:
- About 28% of students had been the victim of digital dating abuse
- Males were more likely to report having experienced it (32% compared to 24%)
- Experiencing offline dating abuse was by far the strongest correlate for digital abuse
Impacts of Teen Dating Violence
- Depression, suicide and anxiety
- School performance issues
- Unhealthy or risk-taking behaviors
- Anti-social behaviors
- Increased chance of engaging in other abusive relationships in the future
Help for Teen Dating Violence
- Teen Dating Violence – How to Teach Your Teen to Recognize the Signs of a Toxic Relationship
- Urban Institute – Graphic Description of Digital Teen Dating Abuse
- Children’s Hospital of Philadelphia – Steps Parents can Take to Reduce the Risk of Teen Dating Violence
- Become a trusted source of information about relationships
- Teach your child about healthy relationships
- Raise your child to be assertive
- Encourage your child to be a good friend — to take action when a friend is in an abusive relationship
- Know when to get involved. Recognize the warning signs that your child is in an unhealthy relationship. These may include:
- changes in mood
- changes in sleep and eating patterns
- withdrawal from former friends
- declining school performance
- loss of interest in a favorite sport or activity
- Break the Cycle – How to Help a Friend who may be in an Abusive Dating Relationship
- That’s Not Cool
- Boston Public Health Commission – Start Strong Boston
- Love is Respect Text: LOVEIS to 22522; Call 1.866.331.9474